See What They See

Yes, if you live in "opposition" to others, well, then you are defined by your opponents. You are defined by their world-view, even if you take the "opposite" view. This is not necessary. Sometimes you can just decide not play that game.

You can make your own rules, you can define your own world-view and you can envision your own solutions.  You really can make your world, your world. And you can step around your opponents. You don't have to see what they see, do what they do. You don't.